February 5, 2010

 “I think I am becoming as paranoid as I sound.”

Most of us trend one way or the other:  optimistic versus pessimistic, cheery versus morose, cautious or careless, paranoid or balanced.  The spectrum includes being reserved versus outgoing, domineering versus unassuming, humble versus insolent, and on goes the list. 

It is, indeed, a spectrum.  Each characteristic we call our own is found on a continuum.  Are we changing with age?  Do we act differently depending on the situation in which we find ourselves?  Perhaps we are working to change our position on the scale, moving away from a trait considered unappealing toward a more admirable quality.  Still others may be on the opposite track, turning virtue into vice.

Having watched and listened and observed for quite awhile now, I’m convinced that we can and do change.  Self-assessment tells me that I’ve changed.  Change, at least positive transformation, requires work.  Slipping the other way in the range is often the result of laziness.  We become our thoughts and our careless language.

Recently, I heard someone remark with tongue in cheek, “I think I am becoming as paranoid as I sound.”  My instant reaction was to chuckle.  The comment was intended to be humorous.  After writing the quote down, my reaction turned to introspection.

We should all watch what we say.  Our words establish the path for our actions.  Oft-heard emotional talk-fests lay a veneer we will ultimately find unattractive.  Measured colloquy paves the way for improvement.

How do you sound?

Craig Halsey

They Said It

February 5, 2010